Love will be in the air next week when Valentine’s Day arrives. People will frantically scour every store shelf (usually the night before) in attempt to find the perfect gift to get themselves in the good graces of their loved one. People will empty their pocket/bank account and spend the most money in a matter of minutes. The love smoke will fill the air as people skip through the fields holding their significant other tight. The night will be epic with dinner ending with a show of affection. Once the sun exchange places with the moon and the smoke settles, the fireworks from last night will be duds.
Another V-Day will go by and the hopeless romantics in the world will still be hoping for better luck next year. Valentine’s Day, in my opinion, is the equivalent of Black Friday. The image of love is a smoke screen in place to cover up what this day is really about…the moolah. Traditionally, we are taught to go ape shit while spending money and the only way to truly express our love is buying expensive, but expendable items. The definition of true love has gone extinct and I’ll list 4 reasons why Valentine’s Day is over-exaggerated and has lost its true meaning:
ROSES ARE RED, VIOLETS ARE…DEAD?
Every year, millions of flowers are bought by suitors to impress their significant other. These flowers could range from $10 to a car note or mortgage or bankruptcy. By the end of the week, you are reading the eulogy for the flower that was once standing tall, but now seems to be more focused on the floor or table top, depending on your placement preference. If The Beauty and the Beast were a true story, the beast would be a skeleton by the time that Belle wondered to the mansion. Are your pockets feeling a little empty yet? If not, here’s another example that will have you questioning that late night shift and early morning escapade.
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY?
Regardless of the gift you buy for that special someone on Valentine’s Day it will be forgotten once the more important days roll around such as: Christmas, birthday, or one week anniversary. Think about a time when you’ve spent your last, hard earned penny trying to impress your honey bun (if you’re into nicknames) only to have them transform into a gift crazed beast when the next gift doesn’t amount to anything. A sudden case of amnesia hits once their birthday comes out of the hat because now you have to do your best magician impression to top your V-Day gift! *POOF* hopefully you didn’t purchase a boat the first time around.
BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVE ME
One unfortunate thing about Valentine’s Day is most of the time it’s like a 24 hour high. Everyone wants to confess their true love and feelings, then once that 12th hour hits hopefully you didn’t lose a slipper, Cinderella, because no prince or princess is going to find it and hunt you down to return it. The day(s) after is doomsday for partnerships, couples, friends with special privileges, domestic arrangements, and everything else under the sun. There is usually a spike in breakups after Valentine’s Day, which I still have no idea as to why this would happen the day AFTER people spend their hard earned cash to impress someone. While this is not the case for all relationships, it’s still worth taking a look at.
WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER DAYS?
The last time I checked, there were 364 other days in the year. How cool would it be to use a random day to surprise your loved one with a nice bouquet of roses, a puppy, or a movie night with a horror film that will make their heart pound? Cuddles anyone? Valentine’s Day has so much importance placed on it; we forget to live for those random days, which could be more impactful than any appointed day of love.
The world has become an item driven society. ALMOST gone are the days of true, unequivocal love like showing affection by doing a random act for a stranger because you felt it in your heart.
Do you know the history of how Valentine’s Day began?
Valentine’s Day began as an early Christian celebration for one or more saints named Valentinus. There are many stories that were invented to go along with this celebration, and the most popular one is an account of Saint Valentine of Rome. According to the story–three hundred years after the death of Jesus–the Roman emperors still wanted people to believe in Roman gods, so an emperor called Claudias, persecuted the church and also prohibited the marriage of young people. He had a theory that unmarried soldiers fought better because they would not have the worry about the fates of their families should they die in war. Saint Valentine, a well-loved Christian priest, would secretly perform weddings for the soldiers, although it was forbidden to wed them. He would also minister to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire.
Valentine would eventually be caught and imprisoned for both of these acts. There is a myth that during Valentines’ time in prison, one of the men who were supposed to judge him, Asterius, had a blind daughter and Valentine prayed with her, which cured her of blindness. Asterius was so astonished by this work that he refused to sentence Valentine and converted to Christianity. Valentine would eventually be sentenced to execution by beating, stoning, and decapitation because of following and spreading the word of Christianity. The night before he was executed, Valentine wrote Asterius’ daughter a letter, which was signed “From Your Valentine.” No expensive satchel, rose, or dinner was needed—only an act of love.
Valentine lived and died for what he believed in, but he also showed that love can be expressed without spending hundreds of dollars (or coins). I’m not saying that Valentine’s Day is a terrible abomination that should be abolished, but the true reason for this day has been covered up with politics and the dollar sign.
If you agree with what you have read and want to return Valentine’s Day to being about love, then I have a couple of challenges for the lucky soul that is reading this
critically acclaimed blog:
- Do something special for your significant other on a random day.
- Volunteer, pay it forward or donate to charity.
If you want to go further with the challenge, then try to perform one act of kindness once a day until next year’s Valentine’s Day, then sign a card and give it to a stranger with a signature that reads, “From Your Valentine.”
Numerous acts of kindness and love trumps one day of short lived affection.